Take Charge of Your Health

Heading into a doctor's office can be a whirl of emotions—you might feel rushed, anxious, or like you're just another item on someone's checklist.

It's easy to feel small and vulnerable when sitting in an exam room, trying to remember everything you wanted to share with a nurse or your doctor.

I've been there, feeling like I couldn't get all my thoughts out, especially when there's more on my mind than just the reason I made the appointment.

But here's something incredibly empowering I've learned from my experience both as an Embodied Voice & Yoga coach and as a black woman navigating these daunting spaces. Our voice is our most powerful tool. It's not just about speaking up but also about ensuring we're heard, respected, and truly valued.

It starts with knowing what we expect from our medical provider and feeling confident to voice those values and expectations out loud.

I value a skilled expert, and I also look for a reliable and genuine practitioner and staff who is truly present with me before, during, and after my appointment.

Here's how you can bring your whole self into your healthcare experiences, making sure your voice doesn't just echo off the walls but actually impacts your healthcare experiences.

01. Share your values and expectations

Before your appointment, think about what matters most to you in your healthcare. Is it compassion, directness, timeliness? Let your doctor know right from the start. You might say, "It really helps me to be direct so I can feel in control of my health." Setting this expectation early helps guide the kind of care you receive.

02. Be ready to share your story

We often rush through our list of symptoms or the medical history part, but your story deserves to be heard. Jot down what's important to share before you go. Think of it less like filling out a form and more like telling your story. This helps you make sure you don't miss anything important and gives your doctor a fuller picture of your health.

03. Be kindly assertive

Being assertive doesn't mean you have to be rude or disrespectful—it's about being clear and firm at the same time. Try phrases like, 'Could we look at some other options?' This invites a conversation and shows that you're involved in your care, all while keeping the tone friendly and cooperative.

04. Seek support when needed

If you're not feeling fully confident about advocating for yourself vocally, remember that support is available. Many medical facilities offer patient advocates who can help communicate your needs and preferences to your healthcare team. Additionally, if it feels right, consider having a friend or loved one join you at your appointment. They can provide emotional support and help ensure that your voice is heard, making your experience more comfortable and empowering.

Finally, taking notes during your appointment can be very helpful. It allows you to document what you’ve heard and understood, providing a valuable reference to revisit in case everything wasn't covered during your visit.

Standing up for our health is one of the most empowering ways we care for ourselves, and we all have the right to healthcare that listens to and respects our unique needs.